Should I use my tool?

Recently, I was aquainted with a blind girl at the poetry club,and despite the hardships, we hit it off pretty well. I had a difficult time trying to ge to know her however, becasue of my families beliefs. We believe that ailments such as blindness and deafness are deserved and inherited, mostly becasue that persons family is evil or inferior due to skin color. The issue is that she is a virgin and really wants to have a ual expirience. As a friend, I'd like to fufill that experience. I know if I was to be with her my family would disown me and I'd bring shame to my family. Should I use a toy, like a and say its me, or actually have with her? What do you think?